God gave man and woman their own individual, unique nature.
To each of them it is a glory.
The unique desires of each are satisfied differently, the result of God’s creative wisdom. The basic differences between the male and the female need to be understood from a Biblical perspective.
Israel’s sin was dealing with God as if He were a man. Many a man misses the mark in dealing with a woman because he makes the same mistake: he tries to deal with her as if dealing with a man.
In creation, God put Adam in the Kingdom of God, and the Kingdom of God in Adam, when He placed Adam in Eden and gave him stewardship over the whole earth.
Adam was created in the image of God, and for the glory of God. God created him in a state of concreated holiness, without sin, and therefore with a perfect mind, body and spirit. Thus Adam could exercise obedience to God’s command and name everything on earth that needed to be named. Adam’s mind was capable of doing it because it was without blight.
Sin brings blight. Adam was without sin, therefore without blight.
To know what Adam was like in his original manhood, you need only to look at the second Adam, the Lord Jesus Christ in His Humanity.
Given the responsibility of stewardship over the earth, Adam derived his greatest satisfaction from the reproduction process that God had established for the replenishing of the earth. As steward over the earth, Adam was given the responsibility of overseeing the process of re-creation. His unique nature and desire was basically satisfied in relationship to his stewardship, and the reproductive process involved in it.
From then on until now it has never changed. Man still derives his greatest satisfaction from the reproductive process of his stewardship over the eart. His job–whether farming, running a lathe, operating a steel mill, selling clothes, managing a company, digging ditches, or exercising authority as the chief executive officer of a coroporation–is still where a man finds his basic satisfaction in life.
The workplace is where a man’s unique desire is basically satisfied.
The farmer’s satisfaction with the reproductive process is found at harvesttime. A salesman finds it when the customer buys the product or service, an architect when his plans become a finished building, an accountant when his audit is completed, and a preacher when his altar call produces results.
We men were created that way. It’s never changed.
God’s pattern for th replenishing of the earth through the process of each seed-bearing plant reproducing after its own kind was then transferred to the reporduction proess for mankind.
To replenish earth, God established a reproductive process whereby the man would plant his seed into the woman, and the earth would be replenish with humanity.
Because the reproduction process of replenishing the earth was the most satisfying to a man’s unique nature in relationship to his job, it became the same in relationship to a woman. The same principle applied to both stewardships–that of the earth and of the family.
God made sex to be enjoyable so the man would desire it and thus fulfill God’s command to replenish the earth. Sex isn’t something a man is forced to engage in.
Sex is the most satisfying aspect of a man’s life in relationship to a woman.
It is also the reason some men can be satisfied with their paycheck at work and sex at home, and not be too concerned with much of anything else.
Paycheck and sex, and some men are content.
But, that won’t satisfy the needs of a woman nor satisfy his God-given responsibilities and character as a man. When a man falls to reognize, understand, or meet the unique needs of a woman, it can cause trouble–for her, for him.
Procreation may be an evidence of manliness, but not maturity.
There are evidences and provisions of love that every man needs to understand. Love is greater than sex. Sex is not a part of love when it is the expression of lust.
Woman was made to be beautiful, desirable, and loved.
Unfortunately, because of his tendency to worship the creature rather than the Creator, man has often corrupted the natural beauty of woman by looking upon her as simply an object to be taken or brought in order to satisfy his own lust.
Strong words. But true.
It is also true that many a woman thoroughly enjoys her ability to seduce a man, and to exercise power over him through her seductive capabilities. There would be no pornography to look at if there were no women who desired to flaunt their sexual prowess.
The women’s liberation movement began as a justifiable rejection against men’s double standards, but unfortunately through time it has degenerated into a general rebellion against all men. The rejection of male chauvinism by women was admirable because woman was never meant to be a prey to some man’s predatory passions and lusts. Rejection is often a proper course of action, but rebellion never is.
Still, the existence and growth of "women’s lib" does serve to illustrate a point. Women are tired of being misunderstood and abused.
Men must learn to minister to the woman’s unique nature. Both single and married men need to know and understand the nature of both sexes, but many do not even recognize their own unique male nature. Men complain that they do not understand women, but often they simply do not understand themselves.
To misunderstand women is to misjudge and mistreat them. That’s why women suffered from male dominance for centuries.
Christianity is the only religion that has elevated woman to the place God originally created her to be–that of joint-heir with man.
A woman’s uniqueness is her greatest appeal to a man — and his greatest challenge.
